The "why" a kid wants to stay/visit with one parent is the most important factor. If it's because one parent has no rules, doesn't make them go to school and lets them party all day, etc. the kid's wishes aren't given much, if any, weight. And if a judge senses alienation, parenting time will likely still be enforced. Illustrious-Book-613. ADMIN MOD. AITA for not letting my husband into the labour room & picking our child’s name? This is a throwaway account because I’m so annoyed and need to vent, this will be a lot so I’m sorry in advance. I 28F had been together with my husband 27M for nearly 10 years. We got married at 21, had our first son a year ... The summer after my mom died when we were kids, she and her new partner came up to stay with us to help with the adjustment. She considered me so much like another daughter that had planned on legally adopting me after I turned 18 (when I aged out of social security survivor's benefits), but sadly she passed away before we could do that.AITA for saying I don't care if my half siblings feel left out because it's not my mom's job to mother them? "My parents were married and had me (16f) and my brother (18m). My dad had an affair with Kate and mom and him divorced. Ellie (11f) was the result of the affair and Tommy (9m) was born when dad married Kate. A year later Kate d**d.AITA for "favoring" my child over my step child and "causing resentment"?Are you looking to enroll your child in a Kendriya Vidyalaya (KV) for class 1? The KV class 1 admission process can be overwhelming for parents, especially if it’s their first time...r/AmItheAsshole. r/AmItheAsshole. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.If your kids are OK with leftovers, then you make dishes for 8. If the stepkids are there, then minimal leftovers; if they're not, you freeze 'em and you've got a meal for the next time they're not there. But of course that would probably still require knowing earlier in the day whether they'll be there or not.I just don't know myself I feel like an asshole for making my parents leave cause I love them so much but at the same time I feel so mad over the situation. Edit: since people are wondering if my mom knew because she was so quiet, she knew everything. Judgement: NTA--- UPDATE: AITA for kicking out my parents for never telling me about my half ...Will existing children feel left out? You may be worried your children will feel the baby is getting all the attention and this is natural under the circumstances. Some children can …The summer after my mom died when we were kids, she and her new partner came up to stay with us to help with the adjustment. She considered me so much like another daughter that had planned on legally adopting me after I turned 18 (when I aged out of social security survivor's benefits), but sadly she passed away before we could do that.In case this story gets deleted/removed: AITA for suggesting my step child go to boarding school. Some details changed for privacy as well as a throwaway account. I 36f have been married to my husband 37m for 5 years and he has a 10 year old child. They used to live with their mother and we’d get them every other weekend and over summer break ...Kidnapping is taking a child out of the custody of their legal guardian without permission or justification. That's literally the definition of what your mother did. By definition, she kidnapped your child. There are, like, a lot of laws against that. And it should affect her work as a nurse.I don't even own my bed. I packed up my clothes and my laptop and I went to work like usual. I work out of town for 14 days then I get 7 days off. While I was at work I booked an all inclusive for my week off. It cost me less than rent and food at my parents house. I told my parents my plans and they were cool with it.Overall-Candy-4513. ADMIN MOD. AITA: For not continuing my reception after my husband went behind my back. Not the A-hole. My now husband Lucas (26) and I (F,25) were getting married. We decided to tie the knot as we were having a little girl together and are madly in love. So leading up to the wedding day Lucas told me that his best man (Jacob ...Throwawayfcsnow. MOD. AITA for telling my 18 yo daughter to either sue for child support or get out of my house? My (40F) 18 yo daughter " Ava" dropped out of high school after getting pregnant by her then boyfriend, who is 19. Ava will be 19 soon, has no job and a 10 month old baby. Her boyfriend " Andrew" moved from Jacksonville FL to Miami ... To sit there while your fucking child tells your wife that a miscarried baby deserved death and not do anything is just inexcusable. The kids are lucky that OP isn't as petty and nasty as they are, because I would have been tempted to say "No wonder your mother abandoned your selfish, ungrateful asses." Good for you. That's so awful! My friends child (age 9) did the same thing (cried about feeling overwhelmed) but her parents responded by feeling terrible and asking her why. It turns out there was a particular chore she was finding too hard but she's naturally so well behaved / people pleaser she felt she couldn't say no.Like I said before me and my step sister share a birthday and since he spent a lot on the laptop (about 350) he gave my step sister a card with money that was about 150. She wasn't pleased with her gift at all, my step sister complained for a full week that it was unfair and then told her dad that she would go live full time with her mom if I don't make it right.I just don't know myself I feel like an asshole for making my parents leave cause I love them so much but at the same time I feel so mad over the situation. Edit: since people are wondering if my mom knew because she was so quiet, she knew everything. Judgement: NTA--- UPDATE: AITA for kicking out my parents for never telling me about my half ...While my parents were partying, traveling, drinking, or fighting. When I was 15, they fell in love again and had kids like rabbits (15M, 13F, 12F, 11M and 9M). I left home when I was 18 years old, it hurt in the bottom of my soul to have to leave my siblings, but I couldn't stand it and I had no financial condition.You were asked to do something by your daughter, that most men would feel honoured to do. You suggested that she get her mom, or step-dad to walk her down the aisle instead. Because walking Julie down the aisle 'is an Us thing'. And your wife and daughter think its only fair that you don't walk Marie down the aisle.AITA for feeling left out of my step-child’s pregnancy? I (27F) started dating my now fiancé (29M) about six months ago. I met him when he was talking to my sister’s friend …For the past 3 months it's been a very well known plan that when I (30f) went in to labor, my husband was going to drive me to the hospital and my MIL was going to pick up my mother, my kids and my grandmother (all from one house). BOTH my MIL and my mom were supposed to be in the delivery room. My gram was to watch my two kids in the waiting room.A man throwing a pregnant teen out of the house over her "entitled" behavior is being backed online. Sharing his story with Reddit's Am I the A*****? (AITA) forum, user u/Thro-waway109 explained ...14M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you…With my youngest son, all I could eat, for the longest time, were these giant cinnamon rolls made by the wife of this little tiny grocery store not far from my farm. There were days that they'd be out and I would just go hungry vs. feeling like I was roadkill. Not long into my pregnancy, the wife started saving some for me.Just-a-Big-Brother. ADMIN MOD. AITA for exposing my parents' favoritism. Not the A-hole. My parents have always favored my younger brother. I was by no means unloved. But it was blatantly obvious who they cared about more. I worked a part time job to get my first car, but my brother got one as a present. It wasn't new, but was much newer than ...Checked out Washington State (my alma mater) just to see what it was. Tuition alone is $11,000 a year. I owed $11k to Wazzu in 2004 after graduating with my BA. We've had a college fund for my daughter since she was two months old and contribute a good amount to it every month, so she'll be set if she gets a full ride (or even if she doesn't).Asshole. I (34M) was recently the Best Man at my friends (36M) second wedding, I was also the best man at his first. I saw this joke online and it made me laugh so I stole it and for my opening speech I said "right well....welcome back everyone." which got more than a few laughs, especially from the bride (31F) who seemed to find it hilarious.My mom married my step father when I was only 1. He had a 1 year old son, and then they had a daughter a year later together. My step brother and I are 16 now and our half sister is 14. Step father is the only father figure I know and I've always called him dad, my actual dad is not in my life.Lokimis12. AITA for kicking my pregnant sister-in-law out? Not the A-hole. My brother (29M) and sister-in-law (SIL) (29F) asked Wednesday if they could come for a visit at that weekend. (They 6h away). We said sure, love to see you. Friday afternoon, I (34F) had an ultrasound for my 8 week pregnancy. The ultrasound showed a likely miscarriage.OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I packed and went home after I was told I wasn't invited to dinner. 2. I might be the ah for leaving and going home over this since inlaws invited me to this trip and maybe I overreacted because my husbands mad. Help keep the sub engaging!I'm 29F, the players are my mom, step-dad, and four step-siblings (35M, 37M, 40F, 42M) and their families. I'm the black sheep in that I'm the only one not married with kids, but that's by my preference. I love living alone, I don't want kids, and having a partner just isn't that important to me.Are you looking to enroll your child in a Kendriya Vidyalaya (KV) for class 1? The KV class 1 admission process can be overwhelming for parents, especially if it’s their first time...NTA. This is another case of a parent trying to shove a step-parent down his poor child's throat. Your ex has no concern at all for his son. He and his mama wannabe should both stay home because, if poor little wife doesn't get her way, he'll be making the trip all about her hurt feelings. It's a pity your son's father doesn't care about him.Ways You Can Help Your Child Cope When They're Being Excluded. 1. Listen intently. When your child comes home from school and shares they are being left out, try not to react too quickly (I know, it's hard to control mama/papa bear mode when someone comes after your child). Encourage them to talk and then let them talk—don't interrupt ...I adopted both my husband's children out of "fairness". One had asked and I didn't want the other to feel left out so I offered, I think they felt pressured and I never wanted that. The daughter asked, make that her reality. When, if the son does it can be his too. Support the kids and what they tell you they need/want vs what you think is fairCPS has been called many times not even by myself but their friends and my brother's ex-wife because they feel my niece is being neglected. My ex-SIL specifically said emotional abuse and neglect, and that she had witnessed forms of humiliation in the past as punishment. My niece is definitely troubled. She has a therapist.I (27F) am pregnant with my first child. As expected I am very happy and am sharing news of my pregnancy on Facebook as I have several family members who live overseas and also I want to. This is my first child and I am beyond happy. The issue is my older sister (29F) who is infertile and has given up on children after 9 miscarriages.Either all kids fly one way or no dice. If you can afford first class for 4 you can afford first class for 6 or all fly economy if you dont want kids to feel entitled. He has clearly shown where your kids rate to him especially over his kids. You may want to rethink marriage to an AH like that. Reply reply.Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole.Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment.. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my dad on his anniversary (in front of other people) the real reason why I don't want to g on vacations with him/his family which probably caused problems.The OP's future sister-in-law — who is currently pregnant — started living with him and his 26-year-old fiancé after her boyfriend kicked her out. The OP pays for everything right now because ... Me(25M), my brother Jack(27M) and his wife Jill(25F). It all started when Jack and Jill got pregnant. Their lease almost ended and my parents invited them to stay at our house. The day they came, Jack asked me why I haven't moved out of my room yet. I was confused, like wtf, and he told me that he and Jill will be at my room and I go to guest room. Entreprenuer512. AITA, For walking out of an event when my fiancée introduced me as a bookkeeper? Not the A-hole. I (F45) have a Fiancée (M55) who is retired military officer. I own a successful company I started 7 years ago and have a small staff of 25. I worked my way through college, paying as I went.aitadad862644. AITA asking my wife to pay for my daughter's birthday. Not the A-hole. My wife (Maddi) have been together for 5 years. I have a daughter, Rachel (14) and son, Mitch (11) from my previous relationship and a stepdaughter Talia (14). We always have had separate finances and originally had similar paying jobs.That woman is hideous and I hope this is the first step in your brother divorcing her and taking full custody of the children. If you haven't already, it's time to explain to your brother what she said and why you refuse to let her into your life. Provide a safe and loving home for your brother and his kids.I (43f) have two children, my daughter May is 21 and my son Luke is 17. May's father and I split shortly after she was born, and I met my now husband when she was about a year old. Due to work and life circumstances, May primarily stayed with her father but visited us on the weekends when she was younger.Kids, teenagers and even soon-to-be parents all have questions about pregnancy. However, some people ask questions that are hard to believe. They have zero clue about how babies ar...I left a fake positive pregnancy test in my bedroom to catch my MIL snooping. I might be ta because I set her up and lied about something so important when I could've figured out some other way to address her snooping behavior. ... I actually accidentally found out my SIL was pregnant before she announced it. I was at a bday party for her son ...OP I left home at 16 and went back just before my 17th birthday because parents had 'changed' only to be kicked through a wall a few months later. The second time I left (the day of the wall incident) was the last time I saw/spoke to them and I'm 30 now. I left during my exams here in England and fucked them all up because I was so distressed.And tell your partner that you feel it’s best for your relationships and sanity that he alone handle it seeing as how it went this time. If you wash step kids clothes, put them in a pile on the messy bed. If clothes appears other places, place them in child’s room.My husband was walking ahead of me and was looking left and right like he was looking for someone. I asked him but he didn't respond. He lead me to the waiting area and first thing I saw was his mom standing there with her luggage . I froze in my spot, I felt a cold wave washing over me and I was fuming inside.Yes, thank you. It makes sense for the step dad to reveal the bro isn't his son, because he knew he'd try to go after the inheritance and that step dad's family would support him in that due to blood. I'm sure this is the plot of an only fools and horses Christmas special. Damn, that would be a rough way to find out.One traditional Vietnamese. Walked into her parents house and the seafood smell about knocked me out. I put on my big girl pants excused myself to the restroom and rubbed some peppermint chapstick under my nose. Burned like a mo fo but I was able to stick it out. I had to step outside a few times. But I managed. I stopped for food when I left.It's completely understandable that someone elses pregnancy can stir up a lot of feelings inside of you, when you are unable to have your own child. One woman took to Reddit's …Not the A-hole. I (24f) am getting married next summer to my fiancee J. My mom died when i was 7. Dad married K 4 years later. K has a daughter E (22) from a previous relationship. K and E are easily the most entitled, spoil and rude people I've ever met. They never treated me like family, K has done everything possible to push me away from the ...Are you new to PowerPoint and feeling overwhelmed by its features and tools? Don’t worry, this step-by-step tutorial is here to help you become a PowerPoint pro in no time. Whether...Mom stays out of your room and does not get a key. If anyone breaks these rules, you move toward immediate eviction proceedings. Step 2: speak with a lawyer and become better educated in eviction law. Be prepared to serve 30 day notice to your brother and SIL, and mom if necessary. Step 3: brother needs a plan to move out.My nephews both graduated from high school this morning and I wanted to sit up front so I camped out a bit in front of the entrance. I brought my folding camping chair and my headphones to listen to my show. About 40 minutes before the school would let us inside, a pregnant woman got next to me since somebody let her in line (I assume her partner).Are you dreaming of your next getaway but feeling overwhelmed with all the planning involved? Look no further than Trip Advisor, the ultimate online travel platform that can help y...That seems to be the case in this story about a 17-year-old who is set to receive a large inheritance from his late mother when he turns 18. Unfortunately, his father and stepmother recently found ...For the most part I enjoyed it, but it did something permanent to my personality that hasn’t been very conducive to a happy life. After I turned 18 and moved away, my dad forced my step sis and little sis (one year apart) to be the babysitters for my baby step cousin. At a certain point, my sister refused to return to our dad’s house.Entreprenuer512. AITA, For walking out of an event when my fiancée introduced me as a bookkeeper? Not the A-hole. I (F45) have a Fiancée (M55) who is retired military officer. I own a successful company I started 7 years ago and have a small staff of 25. I worked my way through college, paying as I went. Ducking out for a few groceries and leaving a 10-year-old home for under an hour doesn’t seem too bad—if, in the parent’s judgment, the child won’t burn the house down or let a stranger in or something like that. 3 hours…it’s really hard for me to say, because at 10, my mom would leave me with my siblings (8 and 3) and go a few ... First, he is celebrating his birthday with some 7 year old and then his birthday party is cancelled while the birthday party of little girl is still on. Just imagine that... doesn't matter how a child behaves, just seeing that his step-sister is getting a birthday party and he isn't. Second, note the word, 'begging'.AITA for telling my parents that I'm NOT HELPING out with mom's pregnancy of their "first child"? #redditstories #tldrstoryteller #storytime #askreddit...I was suprised she even mentioned dad since she knew how I felt about him. She told me that Diana was in fatal accident and didn't make it. She said he was wanting to talk to me. Shyla handed me his number and said it's up to me. I did ring him out of curiosity, more than anything. He didn't even recognize my voice. Same thing happened to my mom. It's textbook behavior. And it didn't end after she finally got me and my siblings out, not by a long shot. We're all adults now and we still carry the burden of abuse. OP, don't let this happen to your future children. You have a chance to get out of this before it escalates. Take it! I don't even own my bed. I packed up my clothes and my laptop and I went to work like usual. I work out of town for 14 days then I get 7 days off. While I was at work I booked an all inclusive for my week off. It cost me less than rent and food at my parents house. I told my parents my plans and they were cool with it.See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! UPDATE) AITA for telling my parents they don’t have a daughter. 2. Me and my sibling are still with my granny She said she is happy to take care for us and that she loves having her grandchildren staying with her. 3.Ben and my husband didn't have a ride home and my husband kept calling me but I didn't respond. He came home asking about me leaving mid wedding and upsetting his sister and then leaving him and Ben with no rude home. I argued with him about how Ben embarrassed Megan and humiliated her publicly which must've ruined what's left of her …Are you new to Microsoft Excel and feeling overwhelmed? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Excel is a powerful tool that can be used for a variety of tasks, from simple data organizati...What you want is a wedding where no one has any type of disability or cognitive disorder. You are the ah for: 1) your ableist attitude; 2) prioritizing some image that you have of "your day" over peoples' feelings; and 3) not giving a shit about what your fiancé thinks. Edit: Typo.AITA for telling my kids that if they don't go to my wedding I will not be attending theres . ... I thought I was in purgatory because my cheating ex told everyone I blindsided him and left him with nothing (so people would feel sorry for him and give him attention/stuff). He still blames it all on me and I'm pretty close to telling my kids ...AITA For "Stealing" a Baby Name From My Step Mother and Father. My mother was a very artistic person. She dedicated her life to her art, she was a painter and rather eccentric. She had the idea of having 4 children, and naming us in order to spell out “L-O-V-E” with our first initials. She passed unexpectedly last year, leaving me, and my ...The day of the wedding came, and my side of the family was dressed appropriately, no children were present, everything was going great. Then, Ben's family came. There were lots of children and babies and everyone was wearing all white. Apparently their traditions were more important than what I had to say.That woman is hideous and I hope this is the first step in your brother divorcing her and taking full custody of the children. If you haven't already, it's time to explain to your brother what she said and why you refuse to let her into your life. Provide a safe and loving home for your brother and his kids.She's entering her third trimester with our baby girl and I'm so excited. A friend back in college moved back to the states and wanted to have a small party to see everyone. He invited Kelly and me, so I checked in with him privately and asked if it would be okay to bring my wife and he said that it was cool so I did.5 years ago I married my wife Nina(F31) we tried to have a child but couldn't. We went to the doctor and turned out I can't have anymore kids due to some complications. We decided to use an sperm donor and the result was a son, Mark, who was born a few months ago. The problems started when Nina got pregnant. Harper wasn't happy about it.Pale_Arachnid_8452. AITA For not being happy that my sister is pregnant AGAIN? Not the A-hole. Throwaway because I don't want my family tracking this back to my main. My sister got knocked up by her boyfriend right out of highschool, got married the next year, then proceeded to pop out another baby every year or two, so she has four now at 24.r/AmItheAsshole. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.I feel for my grandparents, but they've allowed so much pain. They've bailed out my parents time and time again, lied to me and my sibling, tried smoothing things over by placating their grandkids while enabling their children, and then lying about it when caught. I just can't anymore. It's understandable that they feel like they messed up.She is trying to forge her own circle and she feels like Amy insists on being part of it, while also refusing to engage with her on her level. The second part is that my parents pay for Ashley to attend a very prestigious private school. Hugo and Amy are nowhere near as affluent as the other families and Ashley feels a bit left out. SageGreenRose. AITA for refusing to allow my BIL or his kids into my house? Not the A-hole. BG: Younger sister (28f) married two years ago. Her husband (35m) was a widower with kids (11m) and (10f). His first wife died 5 years ago I believe. BIL and his kids were nowhere near ready for him to remarry. His family seemed to have pushed the issue ... My mom was pissed off when I found out her divorce with my dad went through while she was 6 months pregnant. I was twelve when i found the divorce decree. Admittedly, I should've known something was funny because she was about to pop at their wedding but I was only 3.Look, I know how difficult it must be to want children so badly but not be able to conceive (my mom was never able to have children, and suffered multiple miscarriages before they decided to adopt me), and I can imagine your wife getting pregnant probably triggered her pretty badly… but creating a fake pregnancy and using your wife's u/s ...Bringing you back into my life would introduce complications I am not willing to face for my own good and that of my family. I simply can not give you what you seek. I want no further contact. I hope you understand and wish you all the best in your life. Goodbye, OP.Same thing happened to my mom. It's textbook behavior. And it didn't end after she finally got me and my siblings out, not by a long shot. We're all adults now and we still carry the burden of abuse. OP, don't let this happen to your future children. You have a chance to get out of this before it escalates. Take it!Your whole family were in cahoots and kept a huge important secret from you for months. You must feel very excluded from your family and betrayed, so I can understand your anger and distrust. If I were you I'd keep a wide berth, and block outside confusing influences until you work out how you feel behind the anger. NtaWe all know the feeling of logging into our inbox and being bombarded with spam emails. It can be overwhelming and time consuming to try and sort through them all. Fortunately, the...We are aware that wife's ex-husband has had a windfall of inheritance money (as conveyed by my step children). This means that my step children are set to inherit that windfall if not squandered. Their paternal grandmother and other family members are still in the picture with possible inheritance that may yet be passed down.
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OP, enjoy your pregnancy stress-free by staying as far as humanly possible from MIL. You also need to have a major talk with hubby. I would disown my own mother if she said that to me &/or my partner. Edit: everyone is taking my saying "grow a spine" to mean that OP's husband has to "man up" &/or become "robotic".In a viral post on social media, the internet has backed a teen for getting her family, including her pregnant stepsister, evicted. Published to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a teen under the ...Aita for telling my parents that are not helping out with Mom's pregnancy of their first child? I sixteen then and will be 17 soon. My parents recently learned they are …Tell the principal what happened in class, tell him that this is not your first rodeo with Mrs N and that this is a long term pattern of behavior and that you will not tolerate your child being put into this position, nor will you tolerate retaliation of ANY sort from Mrs. N for calling her out on her poor classroom management techniques.My grandmother recently passed away, and she left an inheritance and will. Somehow, Lara found out about my grandmother's death and appeared at the meeting where the will was to be read. The commotion was so great that the reading of the will was postponed. That happened last week. Lara left her contact information with my grandmother's attorney.AITA for "favoring" my child over my step child and "causing resentment"?5 years ago I married my wife Nina(F31) we tried to have a child but couldn't. We went to the doctor and turned out I can't have anymore kids due to some complications. We decided to use an sperm donor and the result was a son, Mark, who was born a few months ago. The problems started when Nina got pregnant. Harper wasn't happy about it.Your aunt bringing up children is even more messed up. The aunt is straight up evil. My fiance passed suddenly (many years ago, now), and those "if it hadn't happened" thoughts haunted me for years. Every other wedding, every child birth, every milestone my friends got but I didn't. It was fresh grief every time, not something to laugh about.I (36f) found out that I am pregnant. I am overjoyed as I have always wanted a child of my own. I focused on my career in my life and since I am single, I wasn’t sure if having a baby would ever happen. I was excited to tell my family the big news. My older sister has one child, my nephew (7m).Objective-Pen2383. ADMIN MOD. AITA For Telling My Daughter if She Keeps Her Pregnancy I’m Kicking Her Out. I live alone with my 20 year old daughter. My wife/ her mother died back in 2021 and I’ve been really struggling staying on top of the bills and barely have been able to keep us afloat. My daughter can’t hold down a job, she quits or ...Class difference could apply in my scenario. So could an unspoken "I want to do what I want when I want--and say whatever without consequence, including blaming everyone else in the world for my plight in life." I forgot to vote. OP: NTA, and consider life on the outside of this. I've not felt crazy a day of my life since my divorce.Asshole. I (34M) was recently the Best Man at my friends (36M) second wedding, I was also the best man at his first. I saw this joke online and it made me laugh so I stole it and for my opening speech I said "right well....welcome back everyone." which got more than a few laughs, especially from the bride (31F) who seemed to find it hilarious.It's called revealed preference - you show what you want by what you choose to do, not by what you say you want. She consistently came up with new reasons not to have kids. Her reasons may have been important to her, and ultimately they were more important than having kids (even if that was something she also wanted)..